So the other day I was feeling blah. Really blah. The end of the writing marathon has left me in an interesting spot. It seems a deadline is the only thing that makes me work. Now, all of the sudden I find myself with a little bit of time on my hands and I can’t accomplish much. And the lack of achieving something – something towards my big personal goal – makes me feel blah. So while I was standing in the shower feeling really, really blah, I had some ideas.
First of all, I thought I would start an anonymous blog. I thought I could write about things anonymously that I may not want my students’ parents to know or my mom!! But I quickly realized that one of the gratifying things about having a blog is the comments or emails I receive thanking me for making someone feel better about some issue. Let’s be honest, most of the emails say things like “Thank you for making me feel like my life isn’t that crazy. Your life is WAY crazier than mine.” or “Wow, I thought I was having a bad day!” Whatever the comments may be they bring a sense of community and a sense of not being alone. And motherhood can have some lonely moments. An anonymous blog might undermine that sense of community.
I wanted to call the blog everygirl.com or everymom.com because just when you feel like no one else is like you… when you are the only mom with a child who has a biting problem and they have just bitten someone at the Children’s Museum….when you are the only mom who’s child has lice…when you are the only mom who stays in the bathroom a little longer than necessary feigning bowel issues just to have a moment of peace and quiet…when you are the only girl who just can’t lose that last five pounds or turn down a cranberry bliss bar…when you are the only mom who’s runaway cart filled with little people crashes into a senior citizen at Target…when you are the only mom who feels like crying in the shower at the same time that she feels so much love in her heart…just when you feel like no one else could possibly feel like you you are more like every mom or every girl in the world because we all feel this way. But we don’t always tell each other.
My ideas didn’t last that long though. When I got on to check the availability of the domain names I found out there was a waiting list for both of them. My anonymous blog was not in the stars. My overall blah feeling only lasted for my shower. I got out and went on some adventures with my favorite twins and all was well.
Just remember the next time that you feel like no other mom or girl feels like you do…you can be pretty certain that every girl and every mom has felt that way. Embrace it and smile at the other women in your life a little more…