Cleaning brought me to tears

I am vacuuming in all those little corners that never get attention this morning and I’m clearing out piles of paper that have accumulated from the beginning of school. And lo and behold under the papers I arrived at my dad’s ashes. They are in a jar next to the telephone. Usually they are completely covered and the telephone is never on the stand but today I have cleared the area out. The kids have no idea that the mason jar next to our change jar is filled with Grandpa. It’s a small jar – not all of dad because … Read more…

Wah wah wah!

When Alex was in kindergarten we kept a jar of money on the counter. We said the money was his but we would take money out every time he whined. It worked wonders. The whining stopped almost immediately. I like to think it was our great parenting but more likely Alex reached a new stage in his development. The twins aren’t huge whiners…thank goodness! Eva can whine with the best of them. She has whined so much she used to say she wanted to have her party at a winery…obviously that was before she knew whining was bad and her … Read more…

Drowning in reality

The Farleys are all back at school. We’ve got the structure we were craving by the end of the summer. In fact we may be drowning in structure. But we’re all happy to be in our respective places! A couple of very random thoughts and quotes from the day….. Watched Fergie sing the National Anthem and I said “Fergie changes her hair color as much as I do.”. Justin replied “Yeah but does she do it in her bathroom?” I mentioned I am running to Target tomorrow and Justin asked If they know me by name it. I have been … Read more…

Today

Today Alex’s alarm woke me up too early for a Sunday but just in time for an early and long day of baseball. I was grumpy and annoyed but quickly realized I was lucky to have a full day of baseball in front of me. Today was a reminder to enjoy every moment. Even the ordinary or frustrating moments are filled with some grace – the grace of just being alive. Yesterday I worried about the lines in my life that are getting blurry. Parent, friend and teacher are roles that seem to be swapped in my life by situations … Read more…

I’ve changed my status

Life has changed in the Farley house this week. Yes, the older two started back to school and the twins start next week. We have left summer behind and fall has begun – I know it is still summer but you know what I mean no more vacation! But my status is the one that has me rattled. I am not a stay at home mom anymore. For 12 years I have been at home with my monkeys. I have enjoyed every moment….well, that’s not true. There have been a fair amount of moments that have made me want to … Read more…

Blinked

I blinked and it was gone.  I cannot believe this summer is over.  We accomplished almost all of our goals.  We didn’t make it to Monticello or make marshmallows but we did almost everything we imagined plus a whole lot more.  At dinner tonight I asked everyone what their favorite summertime activity was and we all had a hard time just picking one thing.  We finished the summer off with a trip to Bruster’s tonight for some ice cream.  I would say all in all it was a perfect summer. If I think about it too much I start to … Read more…

Private Investigator of Life

I notice the details. I am a grown up Harriet the Spy. I am a private investigator of life. I write everything down. I remember every last bit.  I catalog it all in my brain for a story to be written some day. I am a writer and I remember the details. I know who did what. I hear silly statements at a party and jot them down immediately.  I see obscure things and draw a picture with my words. I become indignant when details are disregarded. Every word matters. Missing a word redefines a statement. Removing a prefix changes … Read more…

Labor of love

A birthday post a day late… I remember planning and waiting.  I remember reading Goodnight Moon every night to him while he was in my tummy.  I remember having ideas or ideals that are shared by many first time parents and quickly giving them up when Alex arrived in the world.  I remember wishing he would sleep but still staring at his lashes when he closed his eyes. I remember writing down every word he said and telling him long, long stories.  I remember traveling all over New England – just the two of us.  I remember feeding his obsessions … Read more…

Something made me happy

Lots of things made me smile today…I’m happy that we have power and don’t have any damage. As I drove around town I saw lots of devastation. I am happy that life seemed to be back to normal. I spoke with and saw Lisa a half dozen times today (not that i didn’t during the storm but that just seems to be a sign of normalcy) and the boys ran around playing manhunt while we entertained our powerless (electricity wise) friends for dinner. I also found a new way to get some peace and quiet. I hadn’t heard from my … Read more…